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Macele

January 14, 2013

Last week we hired a new nanny.  Our first day together was for her to get to know the kids, the house, and our routine a bit.  I talked with her about what the kids do and need, showed her where everything is.  We eventually talked about our old life in Alaska, though describing -40F (which is also -40C) is not possible to someone who is a native to tropical zone.  She saw pictures (via the computer’s screen saver) of the kids as babies and we chatted about how fat Amelia was.

By the end of the day, my brain was tired.  Because, you know, she doesn’t speak English, so we were relying on my French and Lingala.  But it went really well and it was encouraging.  You see, I will admit that I was concerned that the issues that came up with our last nanny could have been (and most assuredly were, in part) due to my inadequacies as a teacher/employer, or due to the cultural differences in expectations, especially when it comes to the children, despite my best efforts to be sure that my expectations were culturally understanding and, if possible, universal.

One of the biggest, and probably most important, differences between MaCele (pronounced mah-SEH-leh) and Jocelyne (our old nanny), is that MaCele is a wife and mother.  She understands and has experience with caring for children and how it relates to keeping up a home.  Jocelyne simply didn’t have reason to already have that experience, and my few teachable moments didn’t seem to make a long-lasting impression.  MaCele is excited for a few months of work and she loves kids (and has her struggles with having her own).

Tuesday evening she came over, assisted with dinner clean up and watched the routine of getting the gets to bed.  Once they were in bed (and they are VERY good at going to bed, usually completely silent as soon as close the door), we left for Bible study and I told her it was okay to go to bed whenever she wanted.  We get home too late for her to head home (she walks, it’s probably at least three miles in a very dangerous part of town after dark), so her husband is okay with taking care of her daughter and she sleeps in our guest room.  She was already doing the dishes when we finally left.

Wednesday, she was up before the kids and asked what she could do for work.  I honestly had nothing for her, so she puttered in her room until they were up.  She helped with breakfast and clean up, then it was time for me to head out for the day.  I told her about the usual Wednesday food plan (apples, peanut butter, pretzels, bread, chocolate milk powder, yogurt – see?  American kid food!) and we had established that she would make dinner and have it ready for that evening when I got home and she left.  It was an experiment, but ya’ll – it worked so well.  She had that house cleaner than when I left, the kids were happy and well cared for (even in new clean clothes) and dinner was hot and ready to serve.

She was also to work Friday, when I would show her how to change all of our sheets and towels, wash them (which means explaining how to operate a washing machine and dryer), and perhaps some other small duties.  However, that didn’t end up happening.

Thursday afternoon, I was flat on the couch, dreading the signs of things to come.

Friday morning, Macele came at 9am, as previously scheduled, but Jocelyn had been there since 8am to help with the kids, since I was told not to leave my back-laying position.  We explained to Macele what was going on and she took over.  She had the kids content and I was able to go to bed and sleep for over two hours.  Once we realized I needed answers, and got hold of the doctor, it was apparent that we’d be out later than Macele’s leave time.  She was totally okay with this, as were the kids, and we took off for the doctor’s office.

We didn’t come back home until 7pm.  The kids were in bed, but struggling, because the power was out and that never makes for a good bedtime.  Plus, the dinner options I had offered her didn’t include a lack of power.  We were also without a sentinel to help her since Mosengo was out at a funeral, but she did great.  She was okay to go head home right away and left.  The house was perfectly clean and tidy, the dishes done and put away, the laundry folded, and everything put away in its place.  What a blessing to come home and just grieve.

We explained to the kids what had happened, fed them a little more, and stuck them back in bed.

The rest of Friday evening was not good for me.

Saturday morning Macele called to see if I needed her that day.  Matthew was home, and we had lots of offers for help, do I didn’t.  She called again on Sunday, and I assured her she would be okay until her next time to work on Tuesday evening.

Today, Monday, Matthew stayed home to work on paperwork and little things around here.  I had been feeling better, so I forgot and lifted Amelia – and haven’t felt better since.  So, not lifting little ones is hard with them around.  So, hopefully she can come back and work tomorrow morning before Matthew leaves.  But her phone is off…ah well, that happens here in Congo.

However, all that to say, God has provided for us.  Macele is a great lady and we are so excited to be blessed by her in all these ways.  I cannot imagine what we would’ve done if she hadn’t been around during our tough time.  God is good.

Our Loss

January 11, 2013

It is with heavy hearts that we share that our littlest baby has gone to be with the Lord.  Please pray with us in our grief.  We have access to the medical care we need, and were able to see the baby via ultrasound yesterday to confirm what we feared after signs of trouble Thursday afternoon.  God is sovereign and we rest in Him.

Photo Post (Matthew’s iPhone)

January 7, 2013

Matthew here: I often have grand intentions of spending more time blogging, but the planets never seem to align.  Today I synced my iPhone and pulled the photos, it was quite the timeline from pre-departure to present, and I thought y’all might be interested in a few highlights.  The slideshow is a mix of smiling children (for the mommies and grandparents), work projects (for the guys out there), and other miscellany (take it or leave it)…

Laters!

Regularly Scheduled-ness

January 6, 2013

We returned from the Christmas House today.  Our house is fine enough, and was well cared for by Alex, Mosengo, and Papa Willy, so we are relatively happy to be home, but the eight hour power outage from 12:30-8:30pm today was not exactly something to get us excited.  Ah well, we lived through it and the power is back.

Levi and Amelia have both been fighting some mild cold symptoms, that are, at most, annoying.  Amelia also appears to be popping out molars, making her “Millie-tude” a bit more boisterous than normal.  But they did seem happy to be home and in their own beds again.  I even moved Levi up into his 4T wardrobe, since he literally spurted over Christmas, coupled with literally eating constantly.  Literally.

Baby #3 is lovely in that he or she is following their sibling’s footsteps of not making me sick.  God blessed me with easy pregnancies, though I do get tired.  Matthew would volunteer that I’m alternatively more cranky and ridiculous than normal.  Whatev’s.  Baby is well and, so far, not slowing me down.  My maternity clothes are being brought out by a generous adopting mother later this month….I’ll be in need soon, since the baby has no where to go but out!  Matthew let me pick out a basic wardrobe as part of my Christmas present!  In the past, I’ve borrowed my entire maternity line, so I’m fairly excited this time around to build my own collection….we hope to have more than three, you know!

This week, if you think of it, we could use prayers.  The new nanny starts tomorrow, though I haven’t actually met her yet.  I have seen her at church, and I’m excited to get to know her a bit.  Matthew is quite busy with many projects.  But, the reality is, as I was checking to see just how pregnant I will be for our travels back to the states (18-ish weeks) I realized that we are only here for another 10.5 weeks and it is time to start planning The Return.  So, that will also keep us busy, but I’ll post more details on that later.

So, upcoming picture post, more info on our return stateside, pregnancy whatnots, and Matthew worked in Vanga last week and wanted to share with you all about it.  So busy!

New Years Review

January 2, 2013

Happy start to what can only be described as a busy year for the Lind family.  So far, we are planning on living in three different countries and adding a new baby to the family…so, you know, we’re trying to sleep now, while we still can!

But, we rang in the New Year in true Lind fashion – without stopping!  We gathered first at our neighbor’s house across the street (from our regular house, versus the Christmas House, where we’re staying until Sunday), which also happens to be our pastor’s house, as they hosted a church dinner.  100 Congolese were counted as present, and we enjoyed the fellowship and the local food very much!

Our next stop was just next door, at the MAF house, where the Francis family was hosting the big party, inviting all of the missionaries in Kinshasa, plus a few other ex-pats.  It was also great fellowship, though this time in English, and such GOOD food from all over the world!

Finally, we (us and the Freys) gathered our sleeping children and headed back over to the Christmas house.  We were joined by a couple of bachelors (both real and geographical) who we know from our Bible study.  The guys all jumped in the pool, while Jocelyn and I had girl talk on lounge chairs and watched the bats dodge the banana trees.  The guys got out and we toasted to 2013 at midnight.  The single guys headed home, while the rest of us sprawled out in the living room (that is carpeted, which is a real treat here in Kinshasa) and turned on Pirates 3…and then we all fell asleep, some more quickly than others.  Matthew and I were able to wake long enough to head to bed after the credits.

Amelia rang in 2013 at 5:50am, but Matthew is quite the saint and got up with her…because my pregnancy symptom is definitely exhaustion.  Baby Ruth and Levi eventually woke the rest of us and Mr. Perky (Matthew) cooked us a fantastic breakfast of hot biscuits, bacon and eggs.  Shortly after, Nick got a call that one of the previous night’s bachelors (the geographical one) suddenly acquired a yacht on the Congo River for the day and needed some passengers.  Nick, Matthew and Levi enjoyed a day on the river, including a little restaurant that would take 2.5 hours to get to by road, but was quite convenient by river.  Levi did great and even got to drive the boat for about 10 minutes.

Meanwhile, back at the Christmas House, Jocelyn and I fretted over a cranky Amelia, who was refusing to nap, but also refusing to be functional.  She had her cute moments and is currently learning about two new words each day…not all of them English, mind you!  We also back-tracked and [re-]watched Pirates 3, followed by Pirates 2…which total took about 6 hours between the little girls’ needs.  Eventually, the men came home and the Freys departed.

What an excellent start to this busy year!

Christmas-y Update

December 30, 2012

The Christmas House, and all of its amenities, has been such a wonderful reprieve from our normal routine. Not that we mind our normal routine, but sometimes, a bit of luxury is nice. The kids have loved the dog, ShUGA – a white English bulldog with a bit of a noise quirk. She makes snoring/growling noises constantly as she breathes. It is nothing short of hilarious. And she loves the kids…and loves hanging out under the table while they eat.

Speaking of eating, we have done SO MUCH eating. It’s really not good for us, but it’s only for a short while. Between the festivities, the fully stocked American pantry and the personal chef, we are constantly stuffed. Yes, I said personal chef. Chef Taty makes amazing gourmet dishes. Our grocery bill is certainly higher, but we’re saving a bit by not using generator fuel and he does the shopping himself, plus it’s a vacation! He also cleans the house and has been tremendous by doing all of the dishes from our three events.

We had six couples and five kids over on our first Sunday here. Then, Christmas Day, Jocelyn and I, with loving help from our husbands, hosted all of the adopting families who wanted to come while they were “stuck” in Kinshasa. We served large helpings of spaghetti (I made 7 quarts of sauce….it was a bit much), along with some chicken and rice for the newly adopted kids who prefer a more local cuisine. Finally, the following day, we hosted all of the MAF team, including three visiting college kids, for pizza and spaghetti and tasty sides.

We aren’t planning any more official hosting gigs at the Christmas House, so now we get to sit back and enjoy the rest of our two weeks here. The power did go out twice, but less than a minute later, some distant generator kicked on and we were back to life. The constant access to air conditioning has been wonderful, though we’ve acclimated so much that we get chilly if we leave it on for more than an hour or two. This worries us slightly as we plan a return to the states in March or April.

The pool has probably been one of the best treats. Levi loves jumping onto the floaty noodles and has become quite the little fish. Amelia likes to be placed in her floaty seat and left “alone.” Matthew and I enjoy the chance to cool off, though it seems slightly redundant with the air conditioning, but we’re not complaining! Again, with the acclimation…we were feeling almost too chilly to go swimming the other day and discovered that it was 85F outside! Oh dear, we’re going to need to pull out our Alaska gear upon our return!

Our family Christmas, which we celebrated on Christmas Eve, was so fun with the kids. They loved opening their presents lovingly sent all the way from the states from grandparents (and Auntie Jenny) via some generous adopting moms who spared the space in their luggage.

Speaking of the adopting families, it has been such a fun weekly event for me (Lisa), to take the ladies, and occasional dad, out for a quick shopping run in Kinshasa. Two weeks in a row, a friend and her vehicle that holds six, joined us and we were able to take a larger crowd. Sometimes I have time to make several stops, but some weeks I have other obligations and have to cut back, but overall it has been really fun. I especially have enjoyed “making friends” with some of the merchants. Relationships is the entire social, and often economic, foundation in DRC, far more so than in the states.

Saturday was the staff MAF Christmas party, which included all of the Congolese staff and some tasty Congolese food (yes, someday, I will write a post on exactly what that means). Since most of the presentations and memories shared about 2012 were in French, and it was my nap time so my attention span was shorter, I missed quite a bit, but it was still a lovely meal shared with everyone.

Today was the final hosting gig for Jocelyn and I during this busy holiday season.  We hosted, at Nick and Jocelyn’s new house, all of our sentinels and their families.  Between us, there were five guys, two of the wives, and so many children that I lost count, but we got some good pictures!  It was a good success!

Finally, on a sad note, Jocelyn and I had let our nanny/housekeeper go. You’ll remember I introduced her back in October, but she has had some struggles and different ways of approaching improvements have still left us stuck with a poor employee. She is a sweet girl, but we both feel that there is some maturity and motivation lacking. We gave her every chance in the book (at one point, literally writing a new contract), but as a learning experience, one can really only give so many chances before one realizes that learning cannot occur under the current circumstances. It is such a tough decision…and Jocelyn was a rock by being there to let her go (she was the primary employer) and watching her cry and ask for another chance. However, please pray for me because I need to hire a new person and get to know them a bit before my next outing with the adopting families on January 9th! That’s not small order, but I have a lead and will have her start a trial period, if she’s willing, when we get back from the Christmas House.

So, pictures, yes…I have them…I shall post them…but did you know that the internet at the Christmas House is even SLOWER than the MAF internet at our regular house? It’s true. It’s a compromise, I suppose, of vices. Facebook loads quite well, but most other things do not. Go figure. So, just be patient and there will be a lot once we get back!  WordPress is especially slow to load…as in, it won’t load at all and I am currently posting from Nick and Jocelyn’s.

In the meantime, we will experience our first Congolese new year this week. The New Year celebration is a FAR bigger deal here than Christmas, which is only considered an important religious holiday. Bonne Annee will go all night long. Not for us tired white people, mind you…but the Congolese will be partying it up! Bonne fete (good party)!!!

Merry Christmas: From the Lind Family 5

December 25, 2012

We hope you all have a very merry Christmas!

Much love,

Matthew, Lisa

Levi, Amelia

& Baby #3, coming August 2013

Photo 18 Dec

December 18, 2012

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For the month of December, I decided to keep track of the power outages. There does seem to be a pattern lately, either it is off during the day, or all afternoon and evening. If your electric company was this way, yet raised the rates each month, what would you do? Meanwhile, looking forward to the Christmas House, starting on Friday…

Photo 17 Dec

December 16, 2012

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This is the way to a missionary’s heart! Thanks to adopting mama Jennifer and her neighbor for helping out when they were given less than 24 hours notice for travel to Africa from Texas and she had promised to bring me some. What an awesome blessing! In a place riddled with food pests, these bags are even more useful, and yet you can expect to pay nearly a $1 each. The ones we brought are very much on their last plastic legs, having been washed and reused, so we are grateful for the fresh stock!

Helpful Reminders

December 14, 2012

Two thoughts to help you out, perhaps.

First, some of you are so amazing that you’re already ready to partner with us financially – and we are ever amazed at that! And grateful!  So, if you need a refresher on how, just go over to maf.org/lind and there is an option to give on the right.  If you’re a bit more traditional, you can mail a check to MAF at PO Box 47, Nampa, ID 83653.  Just be sure to put our names and the number 8806 on the memo line.

Second, just a reminder that we cannot receive anything but paper mail at this time.  Even if it’s super tiny or thin, it cannot be mailed.  Sorry.  You can just give it to us in person next year, right?  🙂

You all are awesome!  Thank you!